Three Light Houses

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Three Light Houses

After a long and hard voyage the captain looks across the darkness and sees what every seaman wishes to see. In the distance, across the still night ocean he sees a glorious light house. In the clear night the beams of light bounce off the crews face as if the glory of God shined among their filthy faces. The captain’s coming of age son is so ready to be home that if he wasn’t so exhausted, would be tempted to jump overboard and swim to shore.

“Dad…ur…I mean Captain, we are finally home. Why are we not pulling into the harbor?”

“The time isn’t right yet boy. You see that light house? They call it ‘The Light of Foundation’.  It represents the support you need from your family. Anytime you make any kind of decision you must have those closest to you be on board with you. If they are opposed the choice is destined to fail.  You must also have the finances to support your choice. It’s not wise to go into debt to accomplish anything of merit. The foolish will scoff and make fun your decision to play it safe. They will say follow your dreams no matter the cost or where the money comes from, but having a good foundation to stand on is better than standing of the prodding of the foolish. “

“Look Captain, there’s another light house. Should we turn in there?” the boy asks eagerly.

“Aw yes, The Light of Skills’.  An intriguing light this is. It represents the skill you must discover, practice, and master, before you commit to a life decision. In order to be successful in any endeavor, you must master the skills needed to do so.”

“Captain there’s’ a final light approaching. Shall we pass it also?” the boy asks with a disheartened spirit.

“This is a special light house. They call it ‘The Light of Desire’.  This lighthouse represents your desire to do what you set out to do. Some people follow other people advice and do something just for the sake of doing it because they are good at it. Some are talked into something by loved ones when their heart isn’t in it. Some call it passion. Some call it interest. I call it failure if your heart isn’t in it.”

The boy turns around not wanting to hear any more ambiguous lecture and sinks down to the floor of the deck and buries his face in his hands.  “Are we ever going to turn into the harbor, Father or are we just going to sail past everything?”

“Stand up and watch this son. This is when the magic happens.” The ship makes a sharp right turn past a buoy.  “You see young man, many people make the turn into the harbor too early. They see one of the light houses and head for shore. The problem is there is a shallow reef that surrounds the harbor.  If you turn in too early, you will sink your ship. You have to wait until things line up just right. Look at the three lights from here. As we turned the three lights began to become one. They are lined up perfect with our vision and now is the time to turn in.  The same happens with life. You must line up the lights of foundation, skill, and desire. When you do an overwhelming sense of peace will overtake you and it will be a good decision and time to move.  Moving before the lights line up leads to disaster.”

Special Christmas Pricing on EVERYTHING

For most of us,Christmas is a special time. We get a chance to slow down and enjoy our family, loved ones, and celebrate the birth of Jesus the Messiah who accepts our evil and forgives it.

As a special offering during the month of December I’ve marked down all the eBooks well below the original price. Hopefully this offer and reading the books will expand your mind, soften your heart, and learn how to be better as a leader and person.

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How to Deal with Arrogant People

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Ever been to a stuffy party on the good side of town and you can almost cut the pretentiousness with a knife because it’s so thick? One person is trying to one up the other.  No one is really listening to the other ramble on and on; they are just waiting for a break in the conversation so they can do their part of pompous bragging.

A party is bad enough but you can leave the party. What if you have to work with these people? You better learn how to diffuse these people’s attitudes and put them in check or they will poison the entire organization fast.

A good leader wants self-confident people but not arrogant and you must know the difference between the two.  Self-confidence is required for any kind of success in any part of life.  Self-confident people will just roll their eyes at arrogant people.

Here’s how to identify arrogant people and their personality traits (if you didn’t already know):

  • an arrogant person is self confidence that has become destructive
  • self-image is overvalued and often untrue
  • try to overcompensate for low internal image
  • attempts to put on a show for others but it’s really an attempt to fool themselves
  • very insecure
  • very defensive and easily offended
  • likes to toot their own horn
  • doesn’t listen
  • comes across as a know-it-all
  • likes the sound of their own voice
  • takes on challenges they can’t complete then bails
  • doesn’t weigh risks
  • demean others and talks down to them
  • people hate them but rarely say anything
  • regularly talk about nonsense trying to make people believe that they are important
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Go the Extra Mile

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One of my favorite authors I’ve sadly just discovered is the late great Og Mandino. I speed through each one of his books taking diligent notes. The most recent I’ve been learning from is a book called The Greatest Miracle in the World. 

One of the beautiful and simple takeaways was to:

Go the Extra Mile.  The secret that will produce riches beyond your dreams and explainable peace of mind. The only certain means of success is to render more than is expected, no matter what the task is or you can doom yourself to mediocrity by only performing the work for which you are paid.

Don’t think you are being cheated if you deliver more than you receive. There’s a pendulum to all life and the sweat you deliver, if not rewarded today will swing back tomorrow tenfold. Concern yourself not should you serve an ungrateful master. Serve him more. And instead of him, let it be God who you serve and you will know that every minute and stroke of service will be repaid.

Don’t worry if your reward doesn’t come soon. For the longer payment is withheld, the better for you. Compound interest is this law’s greatest benefit. While you wait consider it an investment in your character. The bible even tells you that if forced to go one mile, go two.

Ungrateful Employees

thIf you were to give a survey and ask any person in any nation at any level what they would like to change about their job, the predominant answer would be that they would like to make more money. If you are one of them, don’t be embarrassed. You’re not alone.

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When a leader loses authority

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A family is sitting down around the rarely used dining room table for a holiday meal.  Everyone is in their semi-finest attire.  The table is set beautifully including a huge turkey with all the “fixings”.  Dad has the remote to the television beside him in the big chair at the head of the table so no one can turn on and watch TV during diner. This is family time.

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A bull in a china shop

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Most people in the current workplace, home, church, and social setting are uncomfortable with confrontation. In fact the reason so many people come from what is known as a dysfunctional family is because people would rather live with a problem than confront it. They are scarred to death that they may hurt someone’s feelings and that would by default make them a mean and nasty person for bringing it up in the first place.

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